Yesterday, I met a writer friend for coffee, tea and conversation at our favorite coffeehouse – Van Buskirk Chocolate Bar, Cottleville, Missouri. The conversation was easy, as it always is with this friend.
Serendipitously, another friend, who I hadn’t seen since in a couple of months, just happened to be hanging out, working on his laptop. I noticed him as I stepped inside the door.
We greeted each other with a hug and a smile. I asked how he was doing, and he spoke briefly about his new endeavor.
At one point, we invited him to pull up a chair and chat with us. I knew this man designed beautiful websites and inspirational videos. I asked for some marketing advice about our forthcoming picture book, Midnight, the One-Eyed Cat, due out in September (Amphorae).
It was effortless listening to him speak, and before we knew it, three hours had flown by. We agreed to think about his ideas and get back to him.
I bid my writer friend goodbye with a hug, knowing we would see each other soon – connected by a project and similar interests.
I also hugged my male friend and bid goodbye. But the goodbye morphed into another conversation. A conversation about being fed – spiritually, emotionally, visually and creatively – and the energy that accompanies those specific points.
He often suggested to friends or clients to reflect on their own lives by making a list to identify which people, places and even actions, feed energy levels, or suck energy levels.
I began to think about his advice in terms of motivation, focus and goals in my own life.
I quickly realized that my fur babies, nature, song, dance, art, sunshine and exercise are a positive force in my life. At different times, my husband can be positive, neutral and even negative. (Sorry dear) Certain friends are always positive. Some friends fall in all three categories at one time or another.
So, what’s a person to do?
Spend more time with those people that give you positive vibes. Hang out where people are uplifting. Spent more time in nature, if that’s your thing. Needlepoint, paint, draw – whatever lifts your energy level.
The opposite is true for things that suck energy. Decrease those aspects.
For me lately, social media sucks energy. Often times, it’s so depressing. So, I’ve vowed to limit my social media time to a minimum per day.
As a writer, it’s hard to get away from social media, altogether. It’s an important aspect of networking, connecting with readers, and even selling yourself.
Since nature uplifts me, I spent more time with the pooches yesterday walking our property. Normally, I rush right through it, hoping they will do their business, get some exercise, so I get can back to writing.
Yesterday was more of a ‘meander’. Sure, it took longer, but we observed nature’s splendor and noticed the small things along our journey.
Things like –
The way the sun reflected on the slightly budding, yet naked trees and caramel-hued earth in my favorite part of the clearing.
The carvings in the smooth telephone pole, and shiny metal inspection tags left by the lineman over the years.
Twisted, tangled, fairy tale branches, leaning into another tree trunk for support.
A hollow depression in a log carved by some creature exhibiting ragged edges, wedged horizontally against a knobby trunk.
The way my blue-eyed Pretty Dog pondered life intently studying the landscape.
The wet, pungent leaves underfoot, and how Red Dog stepped gingerly to avoid the sticky Missouri clay on his paws.
Their noses to the ground, Red Dog and Pretty Dog explored new growth in the clearing, and coyote scat laden with seeds.
Yes, this was exactly what I need today.
I needed to be fed.
I’m curious to see how you increase positive energy and decrease things that take energy from your lives. Please feel free to comment.